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Articles by Jasbina Ahluwalia

Long Term Relationship Fizzling?

Q. I have been in a long-term relationship for quite some time now, and have been starting to have some doubts.  Any suggestions for couples faced with deciding whether or not a relationship is worth continuing?A.With time, even the most loving relationships can face challenges. As partners navigate ...

Long Distance Doubts

Q I met my boyfriend when I was working at my first job after graduating from college. Since then, we’ve enjoyed spending a good deal of time together getting to know one another. We’ve developed a great relationship, and have now been together for almost 1.5 years ...

Choosing Therapy

In last month’s column, I recall that you had responded to the question of a woman whose husband had just requested a separation. One of the suggestions you had made was for her to ask her husband if he’d go to marriage counseling. Any suggestions as to ...

Figuring Out the First Date

Q.There’s so much competition out there. Is there anything a guy can do to increase his chances of success on a first date? A.First impressions mean everything. Nowhere is this more true than in the dating world. A good first date opens the door for building a ...

A Clash of Countries

I found your column online while researching complicated, inter-ethnic relationships. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. He is from India originally, I am from California but my mother is from Pakistan. She’s been in the United States for over 30 years ...

The Indian Mindset

I’m a first-generation Indian man who came to the United States for grad school, and while I expected to connect with Indian girls here, I find that they tend to have preconceived notions about Indian men. Any thoughts?Your question hits upon a phenom--enon I have noticed. Many first-generation ...

Making the First Move

I’ve been reading your column for a while, as well as a number of different relationship books recommended by girlfriends over the years. On the one hand I hear that women should be proactive and, on the other hand, many experts suggest  women should not initiate or make the ...

Taking Him Back

I dated a guy for about one and a half years and while we certainly had our fair share of ups and downs, overall I had thought things were going pretty well between us. So it surprised me when he broke up with me, without really giving me any reasons ...

Too Quick to Judge?

Q I feel like I know instantly if someone is worth a second date, but people tell me I’m too quick to judge. What do you think? A As a matchmaker and dating coach to highly selective men and women, this question comes up frequently. There are three things ...

Marital Growing Pains

Q What are some of the growing pains a newlywed couple could face?A Spouses are well-served by being on the same page. Some of the most common complaints from newlyweds  revolve around division of labor and in-law intrusiveness.  Division of labor within the household is no longer as clearly ...
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